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Motivation or inspiration

What’s the best way to get results? Is it to have motivation or to have inspiration? Well, from my perspective it is definitely inspiration, but you will need some motivation as well. What is the difference then?

Motivation is good to have in order to get you going, like taking that first step. Can be to actually get to the gym, or to start writing your post or maybe to start calling your prospects.  Motivation is mostly driven by fear: I must go to the gym or I will get fat, I must write that post otherwise my followers will let me down or I must make those calls to be able to pay my bills. Motivation is great short-term, but maybe not so great longterm. It will make results, but maybe just the results you need to get by and often not for long.

Inspiration is great, and will make you see grand visions, big goals and the perfect results. Inspiration is based on feelings and make you feel alive and ready to rock the world, but it tends to stay there unfortunately.

What I suggest is that you use them both in collaboration. You start by boosting up your inspiration with a lot of Why´s. Then start to think about what it can lead to, your dreams. And last boost up your motivation by thinking about what will happen if I don´t do anything.  This will lead you to have a thoughts mixed with emotions, inspiration mixed with motivation. The best thing is off course if you write it down to make it real and publish it to make it official, if you dare :-)

Then to get results, just think about one thing that you can do that will lead you closer to your dream. It can be anything, just a small research, a sketch or to take that first call. Just do one thing.

Then start thinking about the next thing you can do and do just one thing. As you go along you will get closer and closer step by step, and it won´t be hard.

Think about it as if you would plant a tree that slowly grows to become a wonder. You won´t see anything in the beginning, as long as it is in the ground. But when it comes up through the ground and get its sunlight, then you will see the results and then you will see it grow day by day.

Often we set big goals and think we can make it just by thinking about it or by making great plans and goals. But the fact is, that it is really hard to get there by share willpower. It is so easy to think you can do it all fast and then quit before you can reap the rewards from it.

To get more understanding about how you can take baby steps to overcome mountains, read my post and the book “The Slight Edge” by Jeff Olson

Take care and grow, little by little

/Peter

 

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What is EMGOLDEX?

First of all I want to thank you all for the interaction on my previous posts about EMGOLDEX, amazing (Today EMGOLDEX is launching Mini Golden Link and Mini Golden Link EmGoldex). You were reading it, clicking my links and made comments. I am so grateful, thank you!

What is EMGOLDEX? Well, easy put in my words: A great opportunity to make gold for anyone anywhere.

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It all started in 2008 by Gold & Silver Physical Metals KG, a german company trading big volumes of precious metals.Then 2010 they decided to create a child company in Dubai, and opens up a webshop so individuals could buy gold by grams instead of companies buying gold by kilos.This child company was named Emirates Gold Exchange, EMGOLDEX.

To advertise this new gold trading company they came up with a brilliant marketing idea: lets use word of mouth instead of traditional marketing. So said and done. People could then trade gold by grams, tell their friends to do the same and get rewarded.

The basic idea: You order a share of gold together with 31 other people. When the order is complete you get your gold. If you have participated in fulfilling the order you get rewarded. Just by sharing it with 2 friends you get 8 times your ordered share.

To visualize this group order so that you can follow your progress all orders of shares are presented in a table where you can see the progress of you order. And to make it easier for you to complete your order all invited customers follow their “sponsor”. So it builds like a tree, from root up.

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The best part is that you will automatically get a new order for a share ones you complete your first order. And furthermore, your invited friends will follow you ones they complete their order. Then it just moves on and on. You can buy a new order after completing your first two and continue to recommend it to your friends in order to get things going more rapidly. And by helping your friends to recommend further you build an entire organization, but you don’t have to. Two recommendations are all that is needed ever. Nevertheless, if you build your own organization you get to become a leader and that is extremely fun and makes you grow as a person enormously :-)

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What I like most about the deal is that your investment is secure. You get your share of gold even if you don’t recommend anyone, and the company is solid with over 700 000 customers.

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Help me help you, so that we can lock arms and grow together.

Full explanation in videos at site below:

www.emgoldexexplained.com

Please leave me a comment or hook me up at Facebook, Skype or LinkedIn (always my real name)

Take care
/Peter

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Applying “The Slight Edge”

In December last year I wrote a post about a great book, “The Slight Edge” by Jeff Olsen. This post has recently received good feedback and even a request on a follow up post. So today I will make a follow up post to “The Slight Edge by Jeff Olson”.

What is “The Slight Edge? To summarize it down to it’s core, you can describe it as actions that affects your own life’s scale. Are you moving up or down?

Applying The Slight Edge

A picture can say more than a thousand words. The above picture can be used as a map, a map to success that speaks for itself. There are 3 things in particular that stands out in this picture:

  • First we have the 5% versus 95%, which represents the number of successful versus unsuccessful people (not becoming or attaining what they really want and dream about etc).
  • Then we have the “Easy to do” versus the “Easy not to do”, that states the reason for successful results to be the summary of all the good things you actually do.
  • And last we have the core, YOUR MIND

When I started my journey, my only focus was money. But it did not take me long to realize that without working with my mind first, I would not see any successful progress. Greed and fear was constantly fighting to be in focus and thoughts constantly switched in between, causing catastrophic results.

When I started to work on myself, instead of working on every shiny object coming in my way, I finally started to understand how to proceed and how to bring meaning into my life. I had been wondering about life’s purpose since over 15 years, and now it just hit me like a lightning.

To wander without a purpose is like traveling without a map. You see something you like and just go there without a thought, all the time. Ending up going in circles without getting anywhere. Even though I had a goal, to make money, it was very hard to get there (not to say impossible).

But after cruising around, failing and making mistakes I eventually started to get some clarity to where I was heading and how I could get there. My goal was still to make money but with purpose shifted the goals got multiplied and divided into short term and long term. If you only have a long term goal you will have to wait so long to celebrate, the chance of giving up before that is huge. And if  you only have one goal, what will you do when you reach it? Make sure you have many goals to be able to celebrate the small successes along the way. And make sure to have many goals to always keep striving, don’t you ever get comfortable.

And it is actually here that the slight edge comes in as a life saver:

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When you are working towards your small goals, big goals and towards your purpose you must use a system to survive and to get progress. A system to make constant improvements and growth. The slight edge is that system. By doing the small things every day and not giving up you get forward. By being disciplined and steadfast you will grow and grow beyond your imagination. Only the sky is the limit.

How do I start then?

Well. Let’s say that you know nothing, and don’t know where to start and don’t know anyone to ask. Then instead of starting by doing mistakes, as I did, you should read. You should read at least 3 different books about personal development in order to get life purpose, strength and confidence enough.

OK, so now we have goal. Read three books! Sounds fun and easy, could be done in a couple of months or so… Not to inspiring and not a simple task, ha? But if we change it to be in alignment with the slight edge, how would we do it then?

Well, then we would need a purpose first. For example: To learn more about our selves, to grow, to gain confidence and to get inspired.

Then we would need a way to do it: Read or listen to books and speeches about personal development.

Then we need a system to make it happen: Read at least 10 pages or listen 20 minutes every day.

OK, so what would happen then. The purpose makes me understand the real reason for doing this. The planned way make it possible. The system makes it fun, measurable,  successful, consistent and the goals makes it easy and possible to accomplish.

Can you understand the difference? Just to set one goal and try to reach it is not so easy, but if you do it the “Slight Edge way” it can be both easy and inspiring.

Next step can be to start writing down your ideas like I do. By writing at least one post a week, in a year I will have written more words than i would writing a novel. Hows that for training?

Or it can be taking on a challenge to break or start a habit. That is a perfect way to build some character and confidence. Could be done as a 30 day challenge. And if you apply a little of the slight edge with purpose, celebrating small successes and everyday tasks, you will have lots of fun doing it. Se these posts as examples: “30-day challenge“, “Next 30-day challenge: 30 days without nicotine as a start of my new addiction free life“.

Oops, time flies and I need to wrap this up,

Take care and stay hungry

/Peter

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30-day challenge

Have you ever tried a 30-day challenge? If you haven’t, you should really try it out. It can be a perfect start to achieve great things in your life, just by starting with something small. When you feel the thrill of success and confidence, you want more and bigger…

I got my inspiration from a TED talk: Try something new for 30 days

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I am currently doing my first 30-day challenge: No added sugar

The challenge was so easy and so inspiring so I am already planning my next challenge. Please join in, support and start your own 30-day challenge.

Start to grow by taking your own 30-day challenge!

/Peter

Here is the current log for “No added sugar”:

2014-02-24

Wohoo, one day left and this challenge is sooo done. I feel like I started a whole new episode of my life. Things are just exploding now and opportunities are coming from all directions. New networks, new friends and so many business opportunities that I do not know how to cope with it and do not know where to start or what to pick. I trust them all since we are all in the same business and all friends. Hmm. That came out wrong, because you should not trust people when it comes to business. But everything just feels so right and even my stomach tells me to go for it. Probably I will just stake everything I have and go for it. Feels like the opportunity of my life. If it works out I will have a bigger paycheck on the side than my full time paycheck. And the best thing of it all is that I am going to learn so much that it’s crazy. I have the chance to grow here as I have never had before and I am ready. As ready as I can be now with practicing with the challenges to make my decision making a great habit, with personal fitness on track and personal development exploding. Boy, do I want you to join me on this great journey. Come on, let me share this on a personal basis with you so we can grow together. Check my blog and look me up on facebook or any other media, always with my real name. I am authentic and just as normal as you are. See you on the other side. Love you… www.cernvall.com

2014-02-23

While taking a long walk today I was listening to Tony Robbins book “Wake the giant within”. One of the subjects he discuss is pain and pleasure. And more specifically how we associate them with experiences, conscious and unconscious. What if I could associate painful urge with pleasure of being able to resist it? Do you understand my point. Then associate/replace pleasure of using with pain of bad conscience and pain of failure, brilliant…

2014-02-23

Massive Action Plan. The goal here is to list all the things that could lead me to my goal. It might be so that I only need some of them to reach it since only 20% of what you actually do creates 80% of the result. The hard task is here to find out which 20%, so you better come up with everything you can. In this case it is not something that needs to be acquired, only a minds game of breaking a habit. This makes planning just as important but the number of tasks less. The most important things for me will be to remind myself of why, find substitutes when the craving starts and to make it official. To remind myself I will put up notes on my work desk screen with my why. As substitutes I will make sure that I always have chewing gum, fruit and water nearby. To make it public I will post it here and ask everyone around me for support. Maybe I should try to figure out when the urge is as strongest, so that I can prepare for those moments. Is there something I have missed? Well, to be in a good shape as possible should help too, so make sure to sleep at least 7 hours every night, workout at least 3 times every week and take those extra steps of walking every day. Summary: Public, Why, Substitute, “Urgemoments” and shape. Sounds like a good plan :-). Well it better be, only 2 days left. Night…

2014-02-22

Today I did everything. Worked, joined a new business, socialized, took care of the weeks laundry and had a severe cold. What a day, phew. Hope for a restful day tomorrow, but doubt it. And here I was supposed to write a massive action plan, lol. Have no idea where to start. Will have to do some homework/research tomorrow. Now I have to get some rest so that I can get well. That will probably be on Monday… Why am I always sick during the weekends? Anyway, good night and sleep tight.

2014-02-21

Damn, missed one day. But my day is not over yet, even though the date has passed. Yes, you got it right. I got stuck in front of my computer far too long. Had a lot of stuff to take care of, and some organizing too. Anyway, it was productive and had to be done. Wrote a new post in my blog as well. Pretty satisfied with it to actually. It is about “The heroes Journey ” and you can read it here: www.cernvall.com. We were to write the MAP Massive actionplan, but that will have to wait until tomorrow. Now i must get some sleep. Good night…

2014-02-19

Hurray, one mor day. Now only six left and next challenge creeping closer and closer. Next part of the plan after the big “WHY” is mentor ship/ role modelling/ expert group or whatever you may call it. The purpose here is to get strength, advice and knowledge from someone who has accomplished what you want to achieve. In my case I can just role model myself and learn from my previous attempts since I have actually succeeded for 30 days before. The trick here is to try see the differences between when i made it and when I did not. What made me succeed? And the results of that must be written down in next step, the MAP. Massive Action Plan. The same goes for having someone else mentoring you where you also need to find the key elements that needs to get done in order to take you all the way to achieving your goal.

2014-02-18

Today I am celebrating, it’s only 7 days left. But at the same time I start to shiver thinking about the next challenge starting in 8… Never mind that, lets move on to the next step in planning. Third step after you first accept and decide and the move on to outcome is the most important step of them all. To drive your motivation you need to find an argument that will make you strong as an ox. The only way you can do that is by defining WHY, and make it so that it touches your heart. In my case for next challenge it is divided into two different parts where love is one, and hate is another. A good tip is always to have opposites to see both sides if you loose motivation. My Why to “Not using nicotine for 30 day” is To become the best rolemodel for my kids so they don’t end up in addiction as I did. Also to keep my money away from the greedy companies who makes it so damn hard to quit. They want you to continue buying there products, but no more contribution to them, I will use my hard earned money do invest in the future insted… Hows that for a heart touching why? Cheers,

2014-02-18

Another day, another opportunity. Yesterday I invited everyone in one of my facebook networks to come up with new ideas for business ideas and gosh, did I get answers. I totally drown in suggestions now and have so much to sort and evaluate. It immediately starts to make think about focus again. I need to stay in focus, because whenever I try to do to much at once nothing gets done properly. As it is now I have 3 main focuses with this, my blog and my Better Living network. Perhaps it is enough, even though you always want to find something else to improve your income…

2014-02-17

Just updated my goals in life… How about this for life purpose instead of goals to achieve: My world is now upside down and the goals and dreams I used to have dont really support my new purpose in life… My only and solely purpose in life is now to be the best father I can possibly become. To grow as a rolemodel, to do everything I wish my kids would do when they grow up and to acquire all the knowledge they can possibly need. And as a bonus, get an income on the side big enough to let me support my grandchildren with all the time and money needed when those happy days are coming….

2014-02-16

What a day. I love Sundays! Just walking around doing small stuff all day long. Booked a trip to Miami and New York, took care of kids homework, some cleaning and a lot of nothing at all… But soon it’s Monday again and here I am sitting up to late again, as every Sunday. Now back to the ongoing tasks where I am still trying to enjoy tea again. It is not hard to skip sugar, but it is hard to get the pleasure back. So, next challenge and goal writing. The admit part is done, next is outcome and exit as I see it. Like in everything you do whether its short or long ranged you should have a planned outcome. For my next challenge the outcome and exit will be: 30 days without any nicotine will break my bad habit. It will also build up my strength, my confidence and willpower to stay free from nicotine forever. I will succeed because I make it public and because I put it down in writing for me to review whenever I need. Go healthy, go strong…

2014-02-16

Strange! I wrote a nice piece of log yesterday, but it’s gone? Anyway, 9 days left and countdown has began. First part of goal setting for next challenge is to face your current situation and decide where to go. For me that will be as follows: I admit that I am an addict and will forever be! But I can now using the 30-day challenge break my bad habit and that way stay away from nicotine forever by getting strength and confidence of achievement.

2014-02-14

Happy Valentines day!!! ❤️❤️❤️

2014-02-14

Change of plans again, sorry. Have to be ready for next challenge, so practise will be planning next challenge. Statement coming up…

2014-02-14

Just 11 days left now and I’m getting nervous. Not regarding this challenge though becauce this one was a piece of cake. But for next one, the real challenge. Nevertheless I am grateful that I did this challenge first though. It was a good start and good preparation. Repetition is the key, remember? Today I was listening to this guy, Robert Kiyasaki something, who has written a lot of books about how to get rich. And ones again the patterns are the same as with all the great ones telling you how to achieve something. Start with your why, determine the outcome/exit, get a burning desire and write down your plan. I think I have gotten more or less the same story now from 10 different “experts”, so it has to be something to it. The problem for most people, like myself, is that it is so easy to dream about it, but so hard to actually do it… And that’s why I love these 30 day challenges, it’s a great way to practice before you take on something big and life changing. Even though small changes can change your life as well, but you know what I mean. To head out for that big project of being financially free, or to be able to quit your job and be selfemployed or whatever big you have in mind. So, share your thoughts and let’s practice together. Next challenge will be made by the “schoolbook” with written why’s, outcomes and desires etc. hmm, maybe we should practice now to get better prepared even for the next one. I have been writing about how, so let’s do it for this project as well. Statement by statement starting tomorrow. Begging with accepting the truth as it is, and not how I pretended it to be. Cheers

2014-02-13

You will have to forgive me if you think that I am bragging about my achievements and everything that is happening to me right now. My purpose with this is to inspire you, to let you know what is possible and what you can do yourself. My life just 2 years ago was a mess with too little sleep, a lot of gaming and gambling and almost no exercise. This resulted in poor relations, lack of interest, bad performance and grave memory losses. I kept forgetting things all the time and my wife got really frustrated. It is important to stand up for your self and really get a clear view of your life. Where am I heading? And where do I wanna go? Even more important as a father where your kids do as you do, not as you say. As an example I can mention the not so good habit my kids had of whining whenever it was time for sports practice. Now when I workout regularly myself, they haven’t complained once! So, keep up the good work and be proud of yourself.

2014-02-12

Sugar kills you! Read today that 7 out 10 people that comes into the emergency with heart-attack has problems with their blood-sugar. So, this challenge is good and keeps the level of sugar lower, which makes my chances of getting heart-attack lower. Keep getting stronger and keep getting your sugar lower folks. Take care

2014-02-11

It seems I have forgotten to tell you about the challenge. Well it’s past 50% now and all is well, except for one little mistake. It was yesterday morning when we were having breakfast. My doughter complained about her not being tasty. And since she now skipped sugar I stupidly told her to add a piece of sugar to make it taste better. You know, as a father you only want them to be happy and satisfied… Anyway, so she did but it still didn’t taste good. Then I just offered her my tea instead since it did have a different taste. We switched teacups and the matter was solved to everyone’s satisfaction. The only problem then was that I started to drink her tea and did not think much about it until I half a cup later realized that it had one pice of sugar in it. Damn and damn again, what a mistake and what a wonderful taste! So, it’s just to start all over again hating the taste without sugar and slowly adopt until it gets ok again…

2014-02-11

Good morning. Yesterday I just had to see my favorite tv-series Elementary, it’s great and both me and my son love it. So, where were we. Purpose, yes it is all about purpose. If you do something with purpose instead of chance your odds of succeeding will increase dramatically. Just think about it for a while and you will understand what I mean. If you as an example surf the internet just randomly for an hour in the evening, what will you remember and gain from it the next morning. Compared to if you have a purpose with your surfing and aim for something specific. What are your chances of remembering something you have learned then the next morning. So, if you see your role of a father (parent) with a purpose and get determined on the short term outcomes as well as the long term outcomes. Then you have a totally different game to play. Another interesting observation of mine recently is that my kids have not complained once about going to sports practice since I started to workout regularly. It used to be a weekly thing… Time for work, have nice day

2014-02-10

I have found a new purpose in life! To be the role model, inspiration and teacher to my kids. This may sound strange because that’s what a parent is all about, but I always took it for granted. But when you think about it and get aware of it you can actually make it totally different. If you really try instead of just being a parent stressing around and just do what you have to. This little simple challenge actually made my little girl, 11 years old now, make a choice that made me so proud as a father. She choose not to use sugar in her tea anymore, out of her own will inspired by me. This made me think, and gave me a new purpose in life. More later, now it’s Sherlock on TV. My favorite

2014-02-10

Monday and its great! I used to hate Mondays actually but nowadays its OK, but this morning was the best in weeks. Woke up to get a message from my Iphone App “Moves” telling me that I last week made a new all time record with 63 425 steps walking and 10 519 running steps. What a boost. Can definitely recommend this awesome inspiring app. Cheers /Peter

2014-02-10

Hmm, still not sleeping and it’s soon 1 AM. Not good since I am supposed to live a healthier and stronger life now. But Sundays are always tough to end in time. Must be due to Monday coming up. Did have a great weekend though with 2 workouts and lots of things done. Sleep tight and sweet dreams…

2014-02-09

So, Sunday at last. Got a bit late so I had to quit pretty abruptly. Where we’re we? Oh, yes fourth step role model. This is where you are supposed to take inspiration and lesson from someone who made the same journey before. No need to invent the wheel again. I will just role model myself, because this has been done before. I have made 30 days a number of times actually, but then failed later on due to lack of respect for the task and due to personal weakness. But now I am stronger than ever, and if I can just make those 30 days… Role model yes, how did I succeed last time? How did I feel and what lessons can I bring etc. Last step, number 5, the Map: Massive Action Plan. This is where we outline all the activities needed to reach our goal. Sometimes you can get it fast, and sometimes it takes “forever”. My activities are mainly tracking habits to know when I should be alert and have plans how to avoid the hardest moments and moods. To keep my why close and replace the bad habit with something better. Like eating a fruit or drink a glass of water. To project building anger on the companies making it hard for me to quit so that I buy more. The list can be long and must be complete before I start my challenge. All planning should be written down on paper so I can see it and remind myself along the way. Leave no stone unturned. The next challenge will be a success to. Cheers,

2014-02-09

If I only had more time. Have you heard that one before? LOL It’s not the time that is insufficient, it’s your focus… The problem for me is that I would need 6-7 more hours every day. If I could just skip sleep, then it would be perfect. But the solution is not to skip sleep, it is for me as for everyone else: focus. Never mind, because I would never settle for less things to focus on whether I wished it or not. But the challenges will have to be done one by one, and that’s good. Sorry for not writing in a couple of day but time flies :-) Back to my next challenge and purpose as I was supposed to wright about since this one was to easy and the next one needs preparation. Lately I have been listening to Tony Robbins, wich I deeply recommend you to do as well, and got influenced to try out a new way of preparation. It’s 5 steps: face it, outcome, why, role model and map. The first one is to accept things as they are, and not better or worse. I face that I am an addict, and have to break free. Step two is to be clear and specific about the outcome. My outcome is to break the habit in 30 days, become strong and motivated to move on without nicotine or substitutes. Step 3 is why, and it has to be emotional. My why is be good role model and example for my kids so they don’t end up being addicts like myself. Furthermore to live stronger and longer for them and to ease my wallet of 100$ every month. Those will go straight to my pension funds. Fourth step is role model. To Oops, times up. Good night and see you soon, bye

2014-02-04

Tuesday morning, semidarkness, cloudy, chilly, damp. With others words, things can only get better :-) So, today’s mission was purpose. Yes, you always need to have a purpose. Why do I have to quit nicotine? It’s not good for me, it’s unhealthy,costly and it’s a burden. So the purpose then should be to become a better, healthier, richer person that is free? Yes! But will I even notice the difference during the process of quitting? No, probably not. So that means I have great goals, but no purpose. Hmm, this was harder than I thought. Will have to get back on that, sorry…

2014-02-03

No new challenge today? Nope, was not allowed to start another one until this one is finished…. Never mind, would probably never had made it without proper preparations anyway. Wich I indeed have time for now, and that’s good. So tomorrow’s task will be purpose and goal then. See ya all then, night

2014-02-02

So, one week is up and the challenge already feels complete. This challenge was so much easier than expected. I am already up for next challenge and wonder where to go next? Is it time to take the bull by it’s horns already? To stand up for the toughest challenge possible? Hmm, maybe it is. Well, I am a bit broke right now so it would fit nicely to cut down on the expenses. And I am in fact feeling stronger than ever before. Fine, tomorrow it happens. Tomorrow is the day I will quit my nicotine habit once and for all. Wish me luck and see you on the other side…

2014-02-01

Mm Saturday and been in bed so long that my back hurts. Guess it’s time to get up and make breakfast for my family. Yesterday when we were at my wife’s sister having tea and sweets I could proudly tell her that I don’t use sugar any more. That felt great!

2014-01-31

Another day another morning, and today it’s friday. Thank god it’s friday… Had vanilla tea this morning and it actually tasted good, how strange isn’t that ha…

2014-01-30

Still going strong and the taste of Tea without sugar is actually starting to slowly begin its journey towards being acceptable. Still far to being good…

2014-01-29

Today has been all about work unfortunately. The challenge is moving forward without resistance, but has taken away the joy of drinking tea :-(. I really hope it will get better or I will have to substitute with water instead. Hua!

2014-01-27

Today was great! Continued my challenge but did not have much time for tea. The ones I took we’re not tasty, but ok. Did get time for a car accident, five stiches to my eyebrow and a couple of hours work as well. Life is great and Mondays are awesome…

2014-01-26

Just had my first breakfast without sugar (instead of 3 pieces) in my tea, and without a lot of sugar in my sour milk. At first the tea tasted horrible, but then together with a sandwich it was ok. The sour milk was almost as good without sugar. So, I guess that it mostly come down to habit. Let’s break it!

2014-01-26

Challenge start: No added sugar

Workout daily and feel the growth

There are a million ways to grow, and workout is indeed one way that works for me…

I have been thinking about working out on a regular basis for years but am finally now doing it since a couple of weeks. The best thing about it is that I can feel progress already. I can now run for 5 kilometers in about 30 minutes, not possible a couple of weeks ago. I can row 2 kilometers in 10 minutes, not possible a couple of weeks ago. I can now do 20 push ups, not possible a couple of weeks ago. etc. etc…

Can you understand how this makes me feel? Proud! I even bough myself a gym card at the local gym for the first time in my life.

And my goal stands as a beacon lightning my way.

“I will be walking on the beach without a t-shirt this summer, feeling proud of myself”

My method is now to do a gym workout 3 times a week (every second day if possible) and do some home exercises (push ups and sit ups with a stick) the days I don’t go to the gym. You can look at the video to see the sit ups that I recommend. The stick is a useful tool to workout with at home.

You can do this too…

Just start on a daily basis doing easy workout at home. Start with a few push ups and a few sit ups every day. You will soon be able to increase it. Then start taking walks or light jogging. You will soon feel the progress and urge for more.

Remember that if you want to build a new habit, you will have to do it for at least 21 consecutive days.

If you want more inspiration on daily task you can read my post “The slight edge by Jeff Olson”

Take care and grow
/Peter

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Let us make this year even better than the last one

Happy new year to you all..

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Let us make this year even better than the last one!!!

For me personally, I can say that I had the best year since my kids were born.

And why is that you may ask, well it´s because I finally started to take care of myself and think ahead. It is so easy to be living in the past and just live one day at the time not caring about the future.

But what happens then? Nothing, life goes by and it feels comfortable. You may even enjoy those little extra treatments of food, candy, luxury spending and not to forget all those lovely lazy days.

But what happens then in the long run? You will not enjoy it for long when your health starts to get affected and when your bank accounts are getting emptied. Then you will get depressed and urge for more “treatments” just to keep you happy. And so the spiral goes on in a never ending drowning hole…

But what can we do instead? I don´t wanna make my life miserable just to get better later on…

Start with the little things. As someone wise said “simple is better”. Make it simple and do it small everyday instead of trying to make it all happen at once. You will never succeed is you expect results immediately. What do you think happens to all the people that wins big in the lottery? Most go broke again, some cant handle it and just a few get happy. And why is that you may wonder? Because they did not earn  it, they never had to fight for it. Did you ever as a kid steal candy? If you did, you know it just didn’t taste as good as the earned and bought one, right?

But if you have a desire to change, to make things better in life. Can you do it? Yes you can do it, and you will make it happen if you just keep on working on your dreams one day at a time. But remember, it is not the goal that is the satisfaction. It is all the little successes and victories along the way. Believe me, because I started this journey a year ago and I still haven’t got much closer to my goal even though it feels like I’m already there.

My problem was that I had no clue on where to start or how to do it. I just decided that enough is enough and it’s time to do something useful instead of wasting time and money on gaming and gambling. So I started by searching the internet and boy did I get screwed again and again. I did not know that it could be so easy so I just over complicated everything and was searching for instant results all the time. But you do not have to do the same mistakes as I did. You can just step on the right path and get going instantly without spending a lot of time and cash for nothing. Well, it was not for nothing since I now know so much more and have learnt many lessons. I also know that I will never be able to sell stuff on the Internet that everyone is trying to make you. I might still recommend stuff I like but never for the purposes of getting rich. That is not for me and I strongly advise you to stay away as well.

Oh, falling out of subject here sorry. Back to you and me, and our journey towards being better and happier…

After reading some of the books recommended below, and trying it our for myself, I can now truly say that the journey begins with a desire,  continues with a goal and takes off with daily actions.

Take health for example. The most important and the easiest to start with, since it is so easy and so important to get results. A couple of daily/weekly suggestions:

  • Sleep regularly. Try to go to sleep the same time every night and try to get up at the same time every morning. Measure how much sleep you need to feel rested and have that as a goal. Will probably decrease if you work on the following suggestions…
  • Exercise daily, start with sit ups and push ups. Just a couple to start with and then increase slowly.
  • Make a decision every time you start to eat or drink. Is this good for me, or is it just instant gratification?
  • If/when you are up to it: Workout or run 2-3 times a week. Start slowly and enhance as you get stronger

Next area is your personal development:

  • Start reading books every day. Books about personal development or books that show you how to reach your goals. If you just read 10 pages every day you will have read several books by the end of your first year.
  • Listen to inspiring audios or watch inspiring videos every day on you downtime, going to work, out walking, doing house cleaning etc. Available on YouTube or Ted.com for example.
  • Stop wasting to much time watching television, gaming or gambling. It is not good for you.

The last but not least area is off course finances:

  • Start by putting aside a small amount from your paycheck every month and see if you can spare it. Then increase that amount every month until you find your limit. Put it on a separate savings account with good interest rate and you will see it grow.  I might come up with some investment suggestions later on…
  • Make a decision every time you buy something, is this really useful or is it just for instant gratification (same as for food or drink)
  • Keep an open mind for Ideas. Maybe you can come up with something unique?

Then there are the social area which I will not go into today because it will come naturally once the others are being worked on, and because it will be talked upon in other ways and in other posts. Like “is anger you worst enemy” , “useful little phrases” , “quality time” etc.

So how to start then? Well, start with your desires. Write them down and make some goals out of them. The goals need to be precise and measurable. Two of my goals as examples:

  • By June I’m going to the beach without a t-shirt, and feel good about it.
  • In five years I will have the choice to work as an employed or not, because my income on the side will be as big or bigger than my paycheck.

I also have a desire to become a personal coach of some kind but have not been able to formalize the goal for that yet. And then there is the retirement desire. How will my life be when I retire? Yet to come…

Well, I think that sums it up for today.

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Take care and burn with desire for the better

/Peter

Books to read that I recommend:

The slight edge

Think and grow rich

Secret of the Millionaires mind

Useful little phrases

Useful little phrases

Useful golden phrases

Communication is important, but it takes skill to master. Today I am going to let you cheat a little by giving you some phrases that can help you in many everyday situations.

For instance, when you really want something or want
someone to respond in a positive way, try this:
“Would it be ok if…”

Sometimes you just don’t know what to say, or how to respond. For me, this becomes a fact when I get angry or frustrated. So, If someone makes you a stupid comment or blames you for something, you need to have some easy phrases to buy time and to easy down. Here are some examples:
“That’s Interesting, tell me more?”
“That’s Interesting, why would you say something like that?”
“That’s Interesting, why would you do that?”
“That’s Interesting, why would you ask me that?”

By using these simple questions you toss the dice back at them, which often get them out of balance, and at the same time get you a moment to think and to cool down.

Another situation can be when you ask someone a question and they start ramble about something completely different. Instead of just saying “ Can you get to the point!” you can easily get them back on track by just saying:
“So, you’re telling me…”

And finish the sentence by repeating the last phrase they said, which will wake them up and get them start thinking about what you really asked them from the beginning.

Last tip here is when you are trying to make a point or want something and the other person just throw some negative comment back at you. The just use one of these phrases and repeat the first message you said again:
“That may be, but…”
“I understand, however…”
“I see your point, and… “

This will make your message really clear and they will soon be out of comments if you repeat it up to three times.

Good luck,

Take care, and practice
/Peter