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Is anger your worst enemy?

Is anger your worst enemy?

Both I would say. Anger can actuallly be good for you, but it can also be really bad.

So how should you relate to your anger then? Well, first things first and by that I mean that you have to start with controlling your outrages, those are not good for anyting.

My suggestion here is to use the old saying: “Count to 10 and breath deeply”. Works every time and prevents you from having to deal with both bad conscience and consequenses.

Next step is trying to see the big picture. Often when you feel angry the reason behind it can be backtraced to yourself where frustration or bad conscience are the real reasons. In these cases you can make lessons learned and avoid future misbehaviors.

When the reason for your anger is out of your control you must try to step back and try to get more information so that you can understand the reasons.

Others try to supress their feelings by positive thougts and that might work for them, but you must remeber that anger is a natural thing and comes from our survival instincts.

Most importantly is that you learn to let go of your anger becauce being angry for a longer period of time is not good for you, period.

Take care and use your anger wisely

/Peter

P.s Any tips or experiences you wanna share, please write me a line

Useful little phrases

Useful little phrases

Useful golden phrases

Communication is important, but it takes skill to master. Today I am going to let you cheat a little by giving you some phrases that can help you in many everyday situations.

For instance, when you really want something or want
someone to respond in a positive way, try this:
“Would it be ok if…”

Sometimes you just don’t know what to say, or how to respond. For me, this becomes a fact when I get angry or frustrated. So, If someone makes you a stupid comment or blames you for something, you need to have some easy phrases to buy time and to easy down. Here are some examples:
“That’s Interesting, tell me more?”
“That’s Interesting, why would you say something like that?”
“That’s Interesting, why would you do that?”
“That’s Interesting, why would you ask me that?”

By using these simple questions you toss the dice back at them, which often get them out of balance, and at the same time get you a moment to think and to cool down.

Another situation can be when you ask someone a question and they start ramble about something completely different. Instead of just saying “ Can you get to the point!” you can easily get them back on track by just saying:
“So, you’re telling me…”

And finish the sentence by repeating the last phrase they said, which will wake them up and get them start thinking about what you really asked them from the beginning.

Last tip here is when you are trying to make a point or want something and the other person just throw some negative comment back at you. The just use one of these phrases and repeat the first message you said again:
“That may be, but…”
“I understand, however…”
“I see your point, and… “

This will make your message really clear and they will soon be out of comments if you repeat it up to three times.

Good luck,

Take care, and practice
/Peter

Quality time

My family went to London and I am all alone for 5 days. Will it get lonely, or will it be a pleasure? So far I can say neither, but we will see if that changes when I get into day four or five. Spent yesterday working, both at my job and at home. Then got a couple of hours to relax in front of the computer :-). Today has unfortunately been dedicated to work as well. Built some shelves, cleaned all windows, fixed some cordes and is now doing laundry.

Sounds a bit boring right! But not necessarily because it had to be done, and I finally found time to do it. And to finally get it done is a relief. A huge burden has lifted from my shoulders and it feels great.

Now I have almost all evening to do things that I want to do, and that is rare. My quality time. And I can enjoy it even more now when my conciense is clean.

It is important to find quality time, so that you can really focus on things that you need to do. And you have time to take action, to do something new that your have never done before.

Normally when you have a family with kids and a fultime job you don’t get any quality time on your own. And I have actually missed it. Earlier I used to sit up late in the evenings and play games, which actually passed good for quality time. Only problem there was that both family relations and job got affected. Not ok.

My dream is to have quality time every day. My 5-year plan is all about it. To be able to work from home as much as I like, and to be able to take vacations when I like.

Take care, and go find some quality time of your ownQuality time